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• My Spouse Is Overweight

  Simon Y. Feuerman, Psy.D., L.C.S.W.

  20 Nov 2009 | 11:51 am

  When I was growing up there was a couple on my block. She was heavy and he was thin. My mother who never failed to notice anything, particularly weight, would comment: She is heavy, but he is thin. Periodically, we would run into them and my mother would repeat "she is heavy and he is thin." Appearances had great meaning to my mother, but she would never permit herself to say anything beyond that. As I got older I began to wonder about that couple. Did she want him to be thin and smaller than her? Did he want her to be heavy? If she died and he married someone else, would the next woman also…

• Enjoy Your Emotions, Part II

  Thomas Scheff, Ph.D.

  20 Nov 2009 | 11:27 am

  My last column was mostly about two emotions, grief and fear. This column will concern two other emotions, shame and anger, and also another kind of stress, bodily tension such as illness and fatigue. Emotions and feelings are at core physical, rather than only mental. Sadness is the feeling we get when bodily preparations to cry are not carried out. In this view, crying is the orgasm of a state of bodily arousal: grief. The habit of controlling emotions by ignoring them turns out to be a huge problem. Over the long haul, unresolved emotional arousals can build up to the point of continuous…

• In Which I Get Teary Reading My Own Book.

  Gretchen Rubin

  20 Nov 2009 | 8:17 am

  This week, I finished the audiobook for The Happiness Project. As I’d expected, it made me very happy to learn to do something new and to get a glimpse into the unfamiliar world of sound recording. It was also thrilling to learn that none other than Jim Dale had sat in the very same seat that I was using, when he was recording Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. It took him three weeks! And they had top, top security. What surprised me most about the recording process was how emotional I became while reading certain parts of the book. I literally choked up and had to take a drink of water…

• Encore Interview: Erasing the Stigma of Suicide

  Melissa Blake

  20 Nov 2009 | 6:26 am

  This week, as National Survivors of Suicide Day approaches tomorrow, we've been exploring the impact of suicide, both on a personal and societal level. Michael Behmer, a marriage and family therapist at Vive and co-founder of Chaos to Connection, a comprehensive program designed to restore relationships between parents and their children, had this to say.What can people do to help eliminate the stigma that surrounds suicide? I think you would have to convince people to not run from painful experiences. Stigmas exist because there is fear to engage them and explore a remedy. There is mostly a…

• Five Tricks to Help Stressed Stepparents Enjoy the Holidays

  Wednesday Martin, Ph.D.

  20 Nov 2009 | 6:18 am

  A special guest post by stepmother, researcher, and author Jacquelyn Fletcher (A Career Girl's Guide to Becoming a Stepmom). While it's written specifically with stepmothers in mind, men with stepkids can benefit from Jacque's insights here as well...As Thanksgiving approaches, instead of feeling the warm anticipation of a day to spend with family, stepmothers across America are downing antacids. And really it's no surprise. "All of our experimental and clinical research confirms that the sense of having little or no control is always distressful," says Paul J. Rosch, MD, a clinical professor…

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• It’s Been A While. . .

  gotvenus

  14 Nov 2009 | 8:49 pm

  I have always liked that song, even though I have never been addicted…to drugs anyways… So, I have sort of taken an extended vacation. Things got pretty heavy for a while, but I am back and slowly returning to the scene. The bad: Lost contact with a lot of people, and for that I apologize. The good: got LOTS of good stuff coming in the future. Come back often, and as the winter approaches, more and more information, fun, and advice will start to fill this blog again! Yeah! Miss me? Liar, I know the game and you would say anything to keep me hanging on…*wink* That’s…

• Four Types Of Fear When Hooking Up

  gotvenus

  28 May 2009 | 3:16 pm

  Fear of dating and love Believe it or not, many people have a fear of dating and love. Sometimes, they are not even consciously aware of it. There are usually 4 types of fear associated with dating and love. The most common type of fear of dating and love is simply embarrassment. The fear that making contact or striking a conversation with somebody will end up with saying something or doing something that will end in embarrassment. And anybody who has put themselves in this position already knows once you are embarrassed, your game is over and so are any chances of trying to recover from it.

• Gender Psychology And How To Use It To Hook Up With Women.

  gotvenus

  27 May 2009 | 8:09 pm

  Gender Psychology And Hooking Up With Women Do you know enough about gender psychology and how it affects you? What exactly is sexual impulse and why does it create desire? What two phases of these impulses exists in gender psychology and how to use this information? And the psychological affects of the sexual impulse on the woman? These are the questions that are about to be answered in the following article. Sexual impulse is really a combination of physiological and psychological triggers working in complete harmony with the person experiencing it, and indirectly by sending signals to the…

• How To Hook Up With Women By Reading Signs

  gotvenus

  10 Mar 2009 | 11:13 am

  As a man, you are constantly looking at a woman’s body, right? So make it work for you by reading her body language to find out if she is interested to you. Observation is how to hook up with women by reading signs. Want to know what to look for? Of course you do or you wouldn’t be here… A woman tends to speak with her body more quickly and usually more often before she actually speaks her mind. To figure out if she is interested in you, there are few almost sure signs that she is feeling you. The first thing to try and notice is eye contact. When you speak or she speaks…

• The Top 5 Worst Pickup Lines, And Some Funny Ones.

  gotvenus

  1 Dec 2008 | 1:26 pm

  Here are what we consider the worst 5 offenders of pickup lines. It is in your very best interest to Never, Never use these. 5. Your legs must be tired because you’ve been running through my mind all night… 4. Did it hurt? You know, when you fell out of heaven? 3. I lost my number…can I have yours? 2. I thought I was gay…then I met you! Tie – 1. Do you come here often? or 1. If I told you that you had a great body, would you hold it against me? These five will get you…nowhere, absolutely nowhere! ————- Some funny yet still…

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• Wussy Traits, Starting Fights & More

  In this week's Q&A: How changing your wussy attitude can change your dating life and why starting fights is no fun.

• Doc Love: When You're Stuck On Her

  She was abroad, she kissed another dude and now she won't come make amends for her transgression. Doc Love tells Abdul what to do.

• Be More Like Edward

  Who is this Edward dude and why do all women love him? There are lessons to be learned for those who can stomach New Moon.

• Condoms For Climate Change

  What would you rather do, wear a Trojan or drive a Prius?

• Dating A Beautiful Pain In The Ass

  So, you landed a perfect 10, but do you know what you're doing? Here's how to date that beautiful pain in the ass.

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• Still in love with ex who is now onto another boyfriend after the rebound. forget and move on or try again?

  20 Nov 2009 | 2:24 pm

  this may seem a bit long but its the only way I can try to help you understand and answer my question. was with my ex who was my first love for a bit more than a year. unfortunately I had a problem with cannabis where at the end it got too much. I lied about how much a bought and when I came clean she was devastated. we tried for two months but it wasn't the same. stupidly I called it off thinking that after a few weeks we might try again. 4 weeks later she's had sex and is going out with the rebound, who did more drug than I ever did and ended up treating her badly as he cheated on her…

• Confused about ex.

  20 Nov 2009 | 2:23 pm

  So my ex of about a month and I have been talking a lot more recently and he asked me to hang out this passed week. We did and had a great time, and now he's texting me a lot, but some of them just to like send a text not actual meaningful texts. I feel like he thinks that I am still so into him, so won't fight that hard for me, and just thinks I'm going to come running back, if he even decides that. The thing is that I do still really care about him so much, and I do want to get back with him, but I want him to show me that he actually cares, and not just send little texts to leave me…

• What do I do because I say I'm in love (was love at first sight) but my friends say it's puppy love.

  20 Nov 2009 | 2:21 pm

  OK this guy Cade (I was obsessed with him): I told him that I liked him in about 10 love letters (wrong thing to do) anyway I told him how I felt (had to take a chance)so in them they said that I love you and if we could, could we date?Then he never spoke to me for 2 weeks or 2 months and then I talked to cade over mxit on a friend's phone and then cade said: I just want us to be good friends nothing more nothing less so then 3 days after that we started talking and hugging (he gave the softest hugs ever and the cutest winks and smiles)so then I stopped writing letters to him and we came a…

• What is a good match for this guy?

  20 Nov 2009 | 2:17 pm

  He is smart. Very popular and sporty too. He knows all the kids from 4-5 classes below.. and he is friends with the coolest kids. He is pretty much, this quiet, moody guy, with not that good a sense of humor, and he rarely laughs out loud as well. HE doesn't like those showoff types of guys. He is not much of a show-off too.. He has very little patience and can hardly stand getting teased.. He is very bad-tempered. He gets angry quick too, after taking a bit, and he gets pretty aggressive. He is not a flirt, though he knows that half the girls in the school has crushes on him. He is pretty…

• What should I do? This is not sitting well with me, kinda feel like sh*t. Please read.

  20 Nov 2009 | 2:13 pm

  My last girlfriend and I broke up two years ago. It's been difficult and it took a while to get/getting over her because I was very much in love with her. I felt a real connection. We were together for 8mths, and things just went bad the last 6wks of the relationship; lost my job of 4yrs company went out of business, found a new job but it was very stressful, from the stress of a job hunt my commuting for school and band having a girlfriend sort of caused me to lose touch with a lot of friends, she is/was addicted to oxycontin which probably explains her bipolar/weird behavior at times, she…

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• The Fallback Girl – The Girl Who Cried Wolf

  When I was a kid, my mum would always say stuff like ‘If you keep sulking, the wind will change and your face will stay stuck like that’, the classic Jamaican saying ‘Those who can’t hear will feel’, and more notably, ‘Remember the boy that cried wolf?’ As I read the stories of women [...]

• News Update: New Look, Facebook, Twitter, and more…

  If you’re on the site you’ll see that things are looking very different (hopefully in a good way). There is still background stuff to be done like organising posts to make it easier to find posts on key subjects and also to enjoy all of the stuff in the archives. I’ve also set up a fan [...]

• Reader Question: How do you teach someone boundaries for a healthy relationship?

  On Monday I explained about how we teach people how to treat us and what to expect from us, and this in turn, threw up some more questions, namely, how do you teach someone, who incidentally has already been disrespecting your boundaries, what your boundaries are for a healthy relationship? There was also the question [...]

• Reader Question: What do you mean we teach people how to treat us in relationships?

  Recently I wrote about whether you understand the dynamics of your relationship and a few people have emailed asking me to focus on the aspect of teaching people how to treat us and what to expect. I am a firm believer that whilst words are wonderful, if they are not backed up with actions, [...]

• Do you understand the dynamics of your relationship?

  Recently when speaking and corresponding with readers, I’ve been emphasising the importance and impact of the dynamics of your relationship. As I’ve said again and again, we teach one another how to treat us and what to expect with the use (or absence) of boundaries, and as we engage with each other and time passes, the [...]

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• The Orgasmic French Kiss

  Leave a lasting, eroticized impression with these tips for giving an orgasmic French kiss!

• 11 Relationship Resolutions for 2009

  Did you make mistakes in your relationships in 2008 that you want to avoid in 2009? What did you do right that you want to keep doing? We asked the iVillage community for their relationship resolutions, and we hope they'll inspire a few of your own.

• Conversation Topics That Mean He Wants Sex

  Is he trying to sleep with you? You may be able to tell just based on the conversations he starts!

• 5 Tips for Staying at His Place

  Sleeping at your place: Most men believe they can control the situation when in familiar surroundings, but that confidence can be both a blessing and a curse.

• Quiz: Are You A Great Date?

  Do you make a good impression on dates? Take this quiz and find out if you have found the right balance between being too easy and too hard to please.

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• Staying Friends With an Ex

  Cherie Burbach

  18 Nov 2009 | 1:23 pm

  Many singles wonder if it is possible to stay friends with an ex. The short answer is a qualified “yes.” It’s not always possible (or advisable.) If you’d like to stay pals with your ex, here are some tips to guide you. Don’t Offer Friendship as a Way to Soften the Blow Let’s face it, sometimes break ups don’t go very well. The person may get extremely upset, and being the good-natured people we are, we may want to soften the blow. An easy way to do this is to tell the person that you’d like to remain friends. But don’t say this if you…

• 5 Ways to Meet a Girl

  Cherie Burbach

  16 Nov 2009 | 3:14 pm

  Think all the good women are taken? Think again! There are plenty of single women just looking for a wonderful guy. Want to know how to spot them? Here are a few strategies. Facebook Remember that cute girl from high school? Or how about the one you dated briefly in college? Facebook allows you to connect with old friends, and you never know where it could lead. Send her a friend request and get the conversation going. Lunch Dating Too busy to date? Take a break for lunch and meet someone new instead. Most lunch dating places do all the work for you. Just show up, meet your date, and have a…

• “In a Relationship” with Facebook

  Sabrina

  16 Nov 2009 | 2:30 pm

  Facebook almost ruined my life. I was one of the last people to jump on board the facebook train. My profile picture was the question mark for about a year before I let the social media world know what I actually looked like.  At first I really didn’t care much for the site. I would randomly check in, seldom comment on anything and almost never update my status. Then, it happened. I discovered that my ex-boyfriend was on facebook. flickr We had a bad breakup and did not remain friends, which was one hundred percent my call.  We had one of those tumultuous on and off relationships that…

• Women Want Men to Groom Their Body Hair

  Kelli DesRochers

  14 Nov 2009 | 5:43 pm

  For all of you women out there who prefer a man who keeps his body and facial hair well-groomed…you are not alone!  Remington Products recently conducted a poll of 435 males about their personal grooming habits and 440 females about what grooming styles they find most attractive.  Men, unless you are naturally hairless, you better invest in some clippers and razors because the survey results showed that the majority of women think that poor grooming is a total turn-off! Thinking about what to wear on a first date to impress a girl?  I would suggest pairing a clean-shaven face with…

• 5 Ways to Meet a Guy

  Cherie Burbach

  14 Nov 2009 | 8:32 am

  One of the biggest questions singles have is how to meet someone special. If you’re a gal looking for the guy of your dreams, trust me when I say he is probably right around the corner. Here are five ways you can meet a guy (maybe even this weekend!) Go Online Online dating gives the biggest selection of singles around. There are probably dozens (at a conservative estimate) of men who like to do the same things you do who for whatever reason, you’ve never had the pleasure of meeting. Best thing about being online? You know that everyone there is looking to meet someone. No…

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• How to be hot

  Dating Goddess

  16 Nov 2009 | 10:08 pm

  No, I am not going to tell you to wear low-cut tops, skin-tight clothes nor mini-skirts. Although that is hot on some women for some men. But that’s not the tip I want to tell you. I’m going to share something I’ve stumbled on in my dating adventure. It may be old hat to you. I’ve been surprised at how universal the effect is on most men, even married pals. First, though, you may think it odd for me, a woman who is far from svelte to be sharing a tip on how to be hot. But part of the coolness of this tip is that it works with nearly any body type. I’ve learned…

• The wallet triage

  Dating Goddess

  9 Nov 2009 | 4:31 pm

  In past postings we have talked about dating’s financial conundrums and how to find balance. We’ve discussed how different financial values and capabilities cause conflict. In dating, whether we realize it or not, we begin to do what was called a “wallet triage” by one of my hospital clients. This distasteful term was used to describe when they had to determine if a patient could pay for treatment. If not, they had to be sent to the county hospital. It was unpleasant for the staff to ask the uncomfortable questions about someone’s ability to pay while the patient…

• Opening the kimono

  Dating Goddess

  1 Nov 2009 | 7:38 pm

  We’d been talking for a few weeks before meeting. I’m not fond of trying to kindle a relationship with someone living 1000 miles away, but he had certain rare attributes I’ve been looking for in a partner, but unable to find locally. He arranged to stop in my city on his way home from a business trip. At dinner, he was as charming in person as on the phone and IM. We laughed and talked easily as we already knew a good deal about each other. He was a perfect gentleman, sharing his delight about our meeting and never trying to force more intimacy than a first meeting…

• If having sex meant you were married

  Dating Goddess

  26 Oct 2009 | 3:56 pm

  Chupah I attended a lovely Jewish wedding last weekend. The bride was resplendent and the groom handsome as they stood under the  chupah in front of the rabbi (the bride’s father) and the cantor (her god-father). Outside at sunset, the family and friends stood ringing the couple on the grass. The cantor’s sweet singing, including a song he wrote for the bride, soared in the crisp evening air. Candle luminaria lit the lawn on which we all stood, and a lone guitarist strummed entrance and exit music. I’d arrived early, and my friend (the bride’s mother), showed me and another couple…

• An awkward situation

  Dating Goddess

  23 Oct 2009 | 7:40 pm

  In midlife dating, we sometimes encounter situations that are just too awkward to have a ready-made answer. I remember one from early in my dating re-entry. I wish I could forget it. I’m not sure I would have an easy answer if it happened again. The gentleman and I were dating a few months and neither of us were exploring dating others, not because of any overt exclusivity discussion. More because we were busy and not unhappy with the relationship, although I wouldn’t say I was happy either. It was a relationship of convenience — at least for me. We saw each other at least…

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• Check out the DDHG FlowerPetal Store

  18 Nov 2009 | 5:41 am

  Hey ladies! If you're going to be sending flowers, chocolate or other gifts this holiday season, check this out!

• Did Something Happen to You That You Can't Talk About?

  16 Nov 2009 | 11:54 am

  Ladies! Did something happen to you with a guy that you're afraid to talk about? Own your story for all of us!

• 3 Ways to Get Your Brokenhearted Butt in Gear and Find Love

  12 Nov 2009 | 2:57 pm

  Hey there! Are you moping over a bad breakup? Don't you dare! Here's how you can get your brokenhearted butt in gear!

• Are You Waiting and Waiting For an Unavailable Guy?

  10 Nov 2009 | 12:10 pm

  Hey ladies! Are you sitting home alone waiting for a guy who isn't available?

• Rihanna Speaks Out For the First Time - What Do You Think?

  6 Nov 2009 | 1:09 pm

  Nearly a year after being assaulted by Chris Brown, singer Rihanna is speaking out. Check it out!

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• The Secret Signals Your Body Language Sends to Men

  Jessica Strul

  15 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pm

  You may not even realize all the messages your body language sends to a guy--before you even speak to him. Read on, and next time you spot a cute guy, you'll know exactly how to say, "Hello, there" without uttering a single word.

• 10 Things He's Thinking Before He Kisses You

  Kristen Flanagan

  12 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pm

  A guy's brain doesn't turn off the moment he goes in for a smooch. Instead, here's what happens.

• 7 Reasons Guys Love You As Is

  John Ortved

  12 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pm

  Good news! You can skip the bimonthly Brazilians and faux love of foosball. Our promise to you: After reading this, you'll have hours of your life back--and a guy who's more into you than ever.

• Dude-Approved Gifts for Guys

  Lindsey Unterberger

  8 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pm

  Take the guesswork out of what to get the men in your life this holiday season. Our man panel gave the thumbs-up on presents for everyone from your office crush to your live-in boyfriend, from your little brother to your dad--and even from your guy friend to your gay friend.

• Best (and Worst!) Run-ins With an Ex

  Norell Giancana

  3 Nov 2009 | 9:00 pm

  From the spectacular to the spectacularly awful, here’s what happened to women when they had an unplanned meet-and-greet with the guy they used to love.

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• I’m not crazy

  mssinglemama

  19 Nov 2009 | 8:18 pm

  Really. I’m not. Why? Because E.T. says so. See? He’s clearly communicating with me here – sending me a telepathic message that the cute kid holding him needs to be the center of my life and that everything else must come secondary. But to keep the cute kid educated, happy and fed, I must sacrifice myself to do so… well, kind of – at least temporarily – or until I adapt to my new workload. I am sorry I have been so scant. Work is work and there is a lot of work at work. Did you follow that? If not — translation = I am even busier than before.

• Overdue

  mssinglemama

  15 Nov 2009 | 2:24 pm

  This weekend – the first of Benjamin’s “every other” weekends with his father – John Bear and I had two nights and one full day of long overdue us time. We haven’t had a weekend solo since our trip to the Poconos and New York City in August… and given all of the stress I’ve been under lately with the new job, the family drama, Benjamin’s new school and life in general I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to mellow out enough to just enjoy him. But I did. And we did – enjoy each other. Immensely. For 36 hours. Being with my…

• The hero deadbeat?

  mssinglemama

  11 Nov 2009 | 5:47 pm

  Have you heard about the April Baker story yet? If not, here’s the gist – woman (April Baker) Googles herself and finds a website built by her biological father (Dr. Scott Becker) asking her to contact him. After 30 years apart, the two were reunited with camera crews playing witness (see a picture here). As all loving reunions are, it’s a beautiful story. But, naturally, when I read it, I wanted to know more. Like, say, oh – why there needed to be a reunion in the first place. But every article I found focused on the Google search angle, the happy reunion but I…

• Small World

  mssinglemama

  10 Nov 2009 | 5:47 pm

  Remember this? Now read this: Katherine, Did you get the package? If not, I bought insurance and have the confirmation. Let me know! I sent it 10 days ago, maybe longer. A Hi Alaina, Yes we received your package!! Thank you very much for being so generous. We were all blown away by the amount of earrings you sent. I have attached some photos of some of our girls with their earrings. A few of them haven’t got their ears pierced so now they are desperate to go and get it done asap! They have said if they have no time to go to the piercing place they would like to do it themselves. Yikes!

• How do you work it?

  mssinglemama

  7 Nov 2009 | 11:35 am

  This is Holly. We met one month ago when I decided to have my first manicure and pedicure in over three years… maybe four. On one of my afternoon escapades with Benjamin and just after I’d found out about my new job, I noticed a sign outside for her salon for a $20.00 manicure and a $35.00 pedicure. The sign and her low price (manicures are ridiculously expensive in Ohio for some reason) got me I made an appointment for some long overdue Me Time. So there we were, two single moms, one in the midst of year three and beginning the best relationship she’s ever had and the other…

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• Bitch, I’m Sleeping With Your Man

  [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

  20 Nov 2009 | 12:32 pm

  It’s Friday, and I haven’t written anything on this blog all week, so technically this really isn’t a post..but enjoy your weekend & the video below! Pay It Forward!

• The Role of Ricky Ricardo Will Now Be Played By Sammy Sosa

  [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

  10 Nov 2009 | 5:32 am

  There are only a few things I know about baseball: I would lend my cervix to Derek Jeter to procreate at the drop of a dime The World Series interrupted two of my favorite shows over the past two weeks (House & Glee) Baseball players have yuck mouth from chewing tobacco Sammy Sosa, a black Dominican, is apparently Ricky Ricardo now I guess the first three points aren’t as important as the last, well maybe Derek Jeter, but I’ll save that for another post. I was pretty shocked when I saw photos of Sammy Sosa, that were taken while he was attending the Latin Grammy’s 2009…

• R.I.P To My Grandfather

  [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

  9 Nov 2009 | 7:23 am

  Yesterday as I was on my way home from the airport, I was notified that my grandfather’s battle with Prostate cancer had ended. Although my family has been preparing for this moment for the past couple of months, it’s still doesn’t lessen the effect of having a loved one leave. Other than skin cancer, prostate cancer is the most common cancer in American men. The latest American Cancer Society estimates for prostate cancer in the United States are for 2009: about 192, 280 new cases of prostate cancer will be diagnosed 27,360 men will die of prostate cancer Just this past…

• Procrastination Is The Lazy Man’s Excuse

  [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

  3 Nov 2009 | 7:39 am

  In college, I was told by my Nigerian boyfriend that, “procrastination is the lazy man’s excuse” is a Nigerian proverb his father would tell him as a child. Considering I’m not Nigerian, I can neither confirm or deny this, but I always thought it made sense. So in honor of my ex from college & his father, I’m officially crowning myself the “Queen of Procrastination”. As of today, I’ve gotten absolutely NOTHING accomplished for my business trip to Phoenix, Arizona. I have laundry I still need to complete, I have to also pack the kid’s…

• Social Media & Megalomania: A Dangerous Mix

  [fung'ke] [blak] [chik]

  21 Oct 2009 | 6:35 am

  I tend to think there are certain types of people who use the internet as their refuge from the ‘real world’.  These people may possibly receive more attention from their online ‘persona’, but offline, they have about as much personality as a bag of cotton balls.  Dull and lifeless. A while ago, I wrote about “Social Networking Delusions of Grandeur” and megalomania, and now more than ever, I truly think tons of people online suffer from some sort of psychosis. You have these ‘online’ personalities walking around as if every last one of the…

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• More straight talk because the holidays are coming

  singlemomseeking

  20 Nov 2009 | 6:03 pm

  When a blogger writes that kind of raw, vulnerable, here-I-am kind of post, you can’t help but stop what you’re doing and read on. A couple of single parent bloggers have written like this recently about one particular subject: alcohol. Maybe these posts have struck me deeply because I’ve started to write more openly about my own history with alcoholism. These bloggers’ honesty makes me want to spread some empathy around. Will you join me? Kristen at Better Now has been writing more about how alcohol has “caused so much destruction in so many facets of my…

• Describing a nightmare can make it dissolve

  singlemomseeking

  17 Nov 2009 | 11:13 pm

  Thank you all SO much for your virtual hugs this week. I really needed them, and I can’t tell you how much your words mean to me. I’ve spent the past few days facing my fears and doubts. When I’m vulnerable, I really do get angry. Oh, man, do I. I’m trying to channel all that angst into something positive. I’ve written letters and talked to the cops. I’ve stopped people on my street to talk and joined my local Neighborhood Watch. I was doing some reading online tonight (yeah, like every night!) that led me to this Los Angeles Times review of Bad Mother, A…

• To the guys who robbed my home yesterday

  singlemomseeking

  13 Nov 2009 | 3:27 pm

  How long were you desperate @%*& heads scoping out my place before you hit it? All I know is: you planned to bust in just I’d left to start an editing job for a new client. You came inside at broad daylight — and it figures that you went for my Mac Book first. (Fortunately, it was password-protected. Everyone — do that now.) But why the hell did you take my kid’s clunky six-year-old laptop? You couldn’t even give that thing away. What were you thinking? (I know the answer to that.) You threw every article of clothing I own onto my floor, in search of cash.

• Single on Thanksgiving?

  singlemomseeking

  10 Nov 2009 | 9:37 am

  If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, then you know that I officially became a single mom on Thanksgiving. Looking back, I should have seen the signs. He was drinking more – and we weren’t sleeping together. Just before Thanksgiving, he’d told me he wouldn’t be coming with us to my Aunt Marge’s home, where we’d planned to spend the holiday. Instead, he wanted to stay in New York with his sisters for the holiday, something he hadn’t done for more than a decade. He was probably planning his big exit. He was probably mapping out the details to catch a…

• Love grows

  singlemomseeking

  6 Nov 2009 | 2:00 am

  Thanks so much to all of you for your recent comments about what it means to let a boyfriend or girlfriend step in and discipline. Your feedback has inspired some very LONG, thoughtful conversations between LG and me. This is good stuff! Your comments also encouraged more dialogue at the Boston Globe: writer Lylah Alphonse — a mom and step-mom to five kids — wrote her own post at Boston.com from the perspective of a step mom. “I think the answer depends on how you define ‘discipline,’ ” Lylah says. “In my case, I was (and am) comfortable with sending…

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• How Men Learn to Masturbate

  Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

  18 Nov 2009 | 7:16 am

  I’ve gotta hand it to Marty Beckerman and Shawn Hollenbach. Last month, at my friend Rachel’s In the Flesh Erotic Reading Series, they told a room stuffed with strangers & friends how they learned to masturbate. Separately. I know them; although they’re equally sexy & hilarious, they’re not together. Marty digs chicks. Shawn likes dick. In any case, I love “How I Learned to Masturbate” stories. If you want to read about my first time using a vibrator, it’s on New York Press’ sex column Flavor of the Week. For two guys’…

• I Had Sex Five Times This Year … So Far

  Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

  17 Nov 2009 | 1:23 pm

  I don’t get nearly as much action as men often think I do. Apparently, if you write about (shh, whisper it!) S-E-X — or condoms, dating, relationships and stuff related to getting it on — the assumption seems to be: you must screw around a lot! Seriously? Have we, as a culture, become THAT repressed? I’m human. I’m an adult. Sex happens. Does that mean it occurs every day? Nope. Does it happen with every guy I meet? Absolutely not. Not that it’s anyone’s business, but I’m much more exacting than that. Even if I wasn’t, who the hell cares?

• What If the Condom Breaks?

  Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

  16 Nov 2009 | 8:53 am

  Although I use condoms when I have sex, I’ve certainly gone riding without a saddle with longterm boyfriends but, luckily, I’ve never been pregnant, I’m not HIV+ and I’ve never had an STD / STI. When I think about it, it’s kind of creepy that a tiny little rubber keeps my health and childfree status safe. Have you ever wondered: “What if it breaks?” (I’ve had a few break in the past, but those are stories for a different blog post.) In any case, if you’ve ever wondered: “How do they test condoms to make sure it won’t…

• In Pictures: This Is What I Look Like in Bra & Panties

  Twanna A. Hines | FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com

  13 Nov 2009 | 6:56 am

  If we’re close, you might know (or, maybe, you didn’t) I don’t generally wear supplemental clothing — no socks, pantyhose, underwear or other items of aren’t really “necessary” for daily functioning. Of course, there are exceptions: when I run, I wear socks inside of my tennis shoes because they protect my feet from excessively rubbing against the leather & rubber; as an accessory, I often fancy up skirts & dresses with patterned hose or fish nets; and, sometimes, I match panties with a pretty bra. I LOVE matching sets. When I wrote…

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  12 Nov 2009 | 7:41 am

  I think I’m going through something. Is there a name for the period between the quarterlife crisis and a midlife crises? Maybe 33 and 1/3 or something like that? Over the past month or so, I’ve put more thought into adulthood, my career, how I spend my days, friendship, my love life and etc. I’ve even started listening to Tara Brach’s Buddhist meditation podcasts. I think I’m searching. For what, I don’t know. I’m not sure what triggered my recent bout of introspection. Could be the weather. When the sky turns grey and the temperature drops, I tend to…

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• How About You?

  18 Nov 2009 | 7:06 am

  I speak fairly regularly about myself in this blog, whether it be my own dating experiences or those of my friends, family and clients. You know me pretty well if you're a regular reader of this blog, but other than those of you who share your stories through the dating blog or dating forums, I don't know you at all. So today, I'd like to give you the floor. Who are you? Why do you visit the dating site? Are you in a relationship, dating, or want to be? Do you love to talk about dating and relationships as much as I do? Please share your answers at the bottom of this message. I'd also love it…

• Physical Attraction Makes Us Less Able To Make A Good Impression

  13 Nov 2009 | 5:11 am

  According to the October 2009 edition of Psychology Today (Buy Direct), when we interact with someone we feel physical attraction to, we lose the capability to perform simple cognitive tasks. Worse still, the stronger the physical attraction, the worse things get. Researchers at Radboud University in Holland discovered this behavioral hiccup - as many people who have suffered from a dating disaster already know - by asking people to take a basic cognitive test after interacting with another person. The more physical attraction, the worse the men's performances, irregardless if the gent was in…

• Dating Question - When Will He Call For A Second Date?

  8 Nov 2009 | 3:50 pm

  A reader asks, "We had a great first date two weeks ago, but I haven't heard from him since about a second date. When will he call?" I've answered with a bit more breadth in When Will He Call For A Second Date, but basically I'll say that after two weeks if the guy hasn't even touched base with you its time to move on. I'll also recommend picking up a copy of Why Didn't He Call You Back by Rachel Greenwald (Buy Direct). In it, the author shares her findings regarding 1,000 men, and why they didn't call their dates back. I think almost every single woman will find herself in at least one of…

• Dating Blog Carnival For November 6, 2009

  5 Nov 2009 | 4:00 pm

  Welcome to the November 6, 2009 edition of the dating blog carnival. There were more submissions than I knew what to do with - and with room for only a few, that posed a bit of a problem. Still, that means there's demand once again to get this carnival off the ground. So without further fanfare, here are my favorite picks this time around. Danny Dagan over at That Danny shares an interesting dating advice piece called Dear Danny - What to do with an Internet Stalker?. One of his readers, a 27-year-old woman, asks Danny what to do about her ex who contacted her on Facebook. I was thrilled to…

• Dating Blog Carnival Returns

  30 Oct 2009 | 5:15 am

  Last year I used to host a dating and relationships blog carnival here, but because of lack suitable posts I had to discontinue the carnival. However several readers and a few colleagues have mentioned the carnival and how much they enjoyed reading it, so I've decided to revamp to see how it goes on a monthly schedule. If you are interested in sharing a blog post that related to singles, dating and relationships with our readers, please read over the dating blog carnival guidelines for more information. Dating Blog Carnival Returns originally appeared on About.com Dating on Friday, October…

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• Hidden Love Comes When Confusion Leaves

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  19 Nov 2009 | 4:10 pm

  We all have desires to love and to be loved. We sometimes want to know that we matter to others to a point of confusion. Confusion is defined as an act causing a disorderly combination of elements with identities lost and distinctions blended. Sometimes we confuse, misunderstand,  misrepresent, or are simply misinformed. We may have [...]

• Accepting Mistakes, Admitting Faults Without Guilt & Shame

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  11 Nov 2009 | 9:13 pm

  Many people have trouble being real with themselves and with others because they associate their mistakes and / or faults with guilt and or shame. They may feel that when they admit their mistakes that they are somehow less of a person, that they are inferior and lack worthiness. This could not be farther from [...]

• Do You Feel Loved? Responses Over Sensitive Feelings

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  4 Nov 2009 | 5:23 pm

  Do you think that sometimes you may be overly sensitive due to your feelings? Do you think that how you feel is associated to your overall feeling of significance, of how, or if you feel loved? Do you feel loved, valued, and able to openly receive love? Do you feel like your perception of things, to include [...]

• Problems In Love Aren’t Always Love Problems

  Guide

  29 Oct 2009 | 1:23 am

  People often consider themselves to be having love problems when they are struggling in their relationships. However, the problems in love aren't really love problems, they are lack of love problems. Troubled relationships have love missing problems, it's not loves problem, if the love was flowing, there would not be any problems in their love. Life [...]

• Love Forecast, Your Daily Love Forecasts

  Guide

  20 Oct 2009 | 10:47 pm

  There are many people who want to know what is in their love forecast. Many will check daily love forecasts that are posted through or on astrology, or love horoscope websites. Perhaps you are one whose feelings get all excited by these daily love forecasts. The good thing is that you are looking to improve your love forecast, then your [...]

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• Guess Who's Paying For The Dinner and the Drinks? Part 2 (hosted by Miss T) - Nov 19,2009

  SupremeEntertainment

  18 Nov 2009 | 5:00 pm

  On Tonight's Show we're going to be talking about who should get the tab on the bill? Who should be buying the drinks in the club? This is an all time favorite and we know that there are going to be different opinions on this one... Fellas, how do you feel about paying for drinks on ladies night in the club? Why do you feel compelled to buy the drinks? Ladies, why can't you pay for the meal sometimes, and why do you look for handouts? On tonight's show, we will be discussing the datindating | relationships | money | going out | love

• Dating Rules of Engagement - Nov 17,2009

  Darryl James

  16 Nov 2009 | 7:00 pm

  Typically, people date based on whatever they are used to doing, whether it works or not. But dating, like any other venture, has rules and while people make up their own rules, there are some things that work, no matter who you are or where you came from. This show will discuss some of the rules for dating, based on what has worked for successful couples. Guest--Dee Jaye Clark, of The Relationship Navigator. A married woman, Clark helps men and women adjust their approach to relationships and gdating | relationships | rules of dating | dating rules | how to date

• What's Your Preference??? - Nov 15,2009

  The Middle Men

  15 Nov 2009 | 3:00 pm

  This week we will be discussing: What's your Preference in the opposite sex? What are you really attracted to? Do you prefer the tall dark and hansom or is it the thick thighs and round booty? What are some of the things that turn you off from the opposite sex? Is it ashy feet, nappy hair, bad breath, etc... Call in and let your preference be heard!The Middle Men | Preference | People | Dating | Relationships

• Secrets of Online Dating - Nov 15,2009

  Twentity

  15 Nov 2009 | 3:00 pm

  New to online dating? Think that only losers search for love online? Been on the online dating scene and not having any success? Want to get your profile noticed, in a good way? If so, then you will want to listen to Online Dating Secrets: How to find love on the Internet with my special guest Laurie Davis, the eFlirt Expert (http://www.eFlirtExpert.com/) Laurie fuses her personal experience and background in marketing to help singles become successful daters. She altrecent college grads | life after college | online dating | relationships | dating advice

• It's a Ravie Rave Thang!!! - Nov 15,2009

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  15 Nov 2009 | 1:00 pm

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• The Revenge Guy: Ticked Off Bunny Boy

  19 Nov 2009 | 1:19 am

  When the time is right you'll know it. That's the time to confront them for their meanness. Not yet though.

• Finding Love Online For Women: Fatal Flaws In Online Dating Profiles

  19 Nov 2009 | 1:19 am

  Don't let any of these flaws in profile writing appear in your dating profile.

• This Week's Advice Central Topic: We All Make Mistakes

  19 Nov 2009 | 1:19 am

  We all make mistakes, that's what make up human. What gives us character is how we recover from these mistakes, how we learn to change our attitudes and behaviors so these mistakes don't happen a second and third time. Life is a learning experience, we aren't born with all the answers, this takes time, study and yes, learning from our mistakes. So move forward, don't be afraid to make mistakes, just keep learning so you have the experience and wisdom to not repeat them.

• Dating Service Of The Week: Eharmony.com

  19 Nov 2009 | 1:19 am

  Eharmony is having a Free Communication Weekend starting on November 19th - until November 22nd. If you're not familiar with Eharmony and the very personal way they match singles, then now is your time to learn... and pay no membership fees to communicate with your matches!

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• Killer Pickup Lines - Use These to Seduce Women in a Heartbeat

  20 Nov 2009 | 8:59 pm

  Many guys believe that their job in life is to please the opposite sex and keep them happy. Well, to do this, guys have to learn the proper things to say. What would be the perfect lines you can say to girls, then, to make them fall for you? It is so deceptively simple! Here are 3 deadly pickup lines that will give you the best results ever.

• Dating Tips For Men - A Geek's Guide For Dating

  20 Nov 2009 | 8:50 pm

  Yeah, I'm a geek. Or so I've been told. Always doing my own thing. No matter what others said. With few social skills I never had dates, much less romantic encounters with women.

• How to Get Any Man to Stick Around - 3 Things That Every Woman Must Know to Keep Her Man Close

  20 Nov 2009 | 8:11 pm

  In this article, you will learn how to keep your man around and you will discover why it's important that you always act confident, independent and value his independence at the same time. Every woman knows that men and woman are very far from alike, when it comes to attraction. That's why I'll give you some pointers on how to act around your man to keep him happy and around.

• How Guys Screw Up on First Dates! Here Are Some of the Things Most Guys Often Over Look

  20 Nov 2009 | 7:59 pm

  There is a category of men who first have a great deal of difficulty in first getting a date and then create such a bad impression on their first date that there are absolutely no chances left for a second date. Here are some of the massive blunders that men make on first dates...

• How to Get a Girl to Love You - 3 Easy Methods to Make Any Girl Fall For You

  20 Nov 2009 | 7:59 pm

  Is it your dream to walk down streets and have women chase after you? Is it your dream for women to naturally fall for you without having to do any work? Well, several successful techniques of seduction exist that you can put to use to ensure that women will fall for you naturally.

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• 20 Nov 2009 | 4:25 pm

  mark@onlinepersonalswatch.com (Mark Brooks)

  20 Nov 2009 | 4:25 pm

• How A Computer Nerd Revolutionized Online Dating

  mark@onlinepersonalswatch.com (Mark Brooks)

  20 Nov 2009 | 12:48 pm

  VANCOUVER MAGAZINE - Nov 20 - Markus Frind, the founder, CEO, and sole owner of Plentyoffish.com, works as little as he desires. He’s been quoted as saying he works about 10 hours a week. Plentyoffish.com now has 16M users, earns tens of millions of dollars a year, and is growing 80% a year. Alexa ranks Plentyoffish.com the 35th most trafficked site in Canada and the 100th in the US. It serves up 2.4 billion page views/month. Plentyoffish.com spends far less money than other sites do. Match.com and eHarmony.com each spend $100M a year on advertising. They run…

• Looking For A Job?

  mark@onlinepersonalswatch.com (Mark Brooks)

  20 Nov 2009 | 2:06 am

  OPW - Nov 18 - We've updated the iDating industry job listings again. Here are some sample job listings that we thought were interesting... Be2   Executive assistant to the Founder/CEO   Bharat Matrimony   Project Manager - Technical / India - Chennai   Key Account Manager / India - BangaloreCatholic Match   Editor/Public Relations Coordinator   Dating Direct   Account Executive - Search Enginge Marketing - Marché UK / France, Boulogne - Billancourt  eHarmony   Sr. Financial Accountant / US - CA, Pasadena   Director, Executive Office / USA - CA, Pasadena      Social…

• Are You Interested? iPhone Dating App Unveils Live Chat For Singles

  mark@onlinepersonalswatch.com (Mark Brooks)

  19 Nov 2009 | 10:55 am

  MARKETWIRE - Nov 18 - SNAP Interactive launches a new GPS-based chat feature on its Are You Interested? iPhone mobile dating app. The chat functionality enables singles to communicate with other singles through their iPhone in real time in their choice of chat rooms, which are broken down by age range and other categories including sexual orientation. Additionally, singles have the ability to identify users that are nearby and initiate private chat conversations with a specific user. FULL ARTICLE @ MARKETWIRESee all posts on SNAP InteractiveSee all posts on AreYouInterested

• OkCupid Checks Out The Dynamics Of Attraction And Your Love Inbox

  mark@onlinepersonalswatch.com (Mark Brooks)

  19 Nov 2009 | 10:48 am

  TECH CRUNCH - Nov 18 - Every few weeks OkCupid shares a few truths about the online dating scene and human nature in general. The latest report to come out addresses ‘Your Looks And Your Inbox’, charting the number of messages users receive in relation to how attractive other members rate them. The “most attractive” women receive five times as many messages as the average female does. Men on the site tend to be more generous than women when it comes to rating attractiveness. But despite their fair ratings, they tend to ignore many of the women they find reasonably attractive and…

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• Getting Started With Over 50's Chat Rooms and Profile Sites

  20 Nov 2009 | 7:05 am

  If you are someone who is in their fifties and would like to make contact with people who have things in common with you, you may be feeling a little lost. While most of the world is on sites like Facebook and MySpace, it can be tough finding the people who have things in common with you. This is where sites that specialize in senior chat rooms and where you can post your profile. However, you will discover that there dangers that you need to be aware of. For better or worse, there are unscrupulous people out there who feel that seniors make perfect targets, but they can be avoided if you…

• All Senior Dating - How to Find Your Mr Or Ms Right Online

  19 Nov 2009 | 1:28 pm

  All senior dating is about sites that are just for senior dating. They are great for seniors because it is so much easier to find people that are in the age group you are looking for. If you are looking for all senior dating this is a must read.

• Online Dating For Baby Boomers - Tips For Success

  19 Nov 2009 | 11:18 am

  Many of the baby boomers like you try out online dating with a little apprehension or hesitation in their minds. It is quite natural for you to feel diffident as you have started getting older by now. Online dating is a real blessing for you because you do not have to start all over again as you did before.

• Over 50s Dating Tips - 3 Things Not to Do

  17 Nov 2009 | 12:41 pm

  Online dating is a fairly new way to meet people but has quickly become the preferable way for millions around the world. Many of the baby boomers and above crowd are adept at using the internet, but are not on sure footing when it comes to online options of finding a date.

• Getting on With Senior Dating

  16 Nov 2009 | 1:43 pm

  Senior dating is very much like any other type of dating where you will experience euphoria and great excitement especially when everything is going well. You will also feel despair when things fail.

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• Burning Man 2009

  Rachael Black

  19 Nov 2009 | 9:46 pm

  I met a gorgeous GORGEOUS young guy from New Zealand (at my age this means he was in his early 30’s. Maybe. Maybe late 20’s but who’s counting) while bartending. This was at about 3:00 a.m. after the Burning Band (I play flute) gig when I showed up at camp with NO uniform or clothes except my name tag on my bra. Which as we all know basically says “If found wandering in a black-out please return to Spanky’s” The hottie and I hit it off and when I closed up Spanky’s at 6:00 a.m. he came back to my RV. Well….. he’d been up too late. Uh huh.

• Dating Your Friend's Ex. The Ultimate Smite, or a Prelude to "Hugging it Out?"

  yannibmbr

  16 Nov 2009 | 3:00 am

  This post isn’t really looking to offer any sort of advice really.  More or less I’m just unleashing some unsightly “thought vomit.”  You see, I’ve had this conversation before: Should you or shouldn’t you date your friend’s exes?  It’s a good question.  Most people I’ve talked to have a pretty hardliner stance on the whole thing.  However, I’ve been on both ends of this powder keg of a discussion… @singlecityguy of www.singlecityguy.com (great blog, by the way) offered this morsel of insight on the subject when answering…

• Did You Forget You're In A Relationship??

  adivastateofmind

  15 Nov 2009 | 8:46 pm

  I’ve said it plenty of times, my friends are flirts. We all are! LOL So a group of us went out Saturday night to celebrate my best friend’s birthday and the drinks were definitely flowing.  Let’s just say, tequila told me it was ok to lock lips with a friend of mine.  Now at the time, I didn’t care; he’s single, I’m single and he likes to flirt and say inappropriate things so I didn’t think anything of it. UNTIL…..word on the street is that he has a girlfriend. Now I love my friend to death and after doing some thinking, there is a possibility I would’ve even considered…

• Here is my heart, held up high

  shesavestheworld

  10 Nov 2009 | 4:47 pm

  When I entered work this morning I was in a great mood- I was ready to make someone’s day exceptional. Until my co-worker told me she had seen my ex-”guy friend” the other night… my stomach just dropped. Seriously, I felt as though someone had doused me in cold water. I was so upset just thinking about it. Why am I so affected by this? Shouldn’t I be over our relationship, that I ended? Due to my lack of persons to talk with, I need to think this out a little more (yes, I am a thinker.. Yes, I know I think too much). My mom said that if I really liked him, I…

• Match.com round 2

  shesavestheworld

  9 Nov 2009 | 5:05 pm

  Though I am still hurting a little from my prior relationship, it is time for me to move on.  Where did I turn?  Oh yes, good ole match.com… if for nothing else then a starting ground for me to get OUT.   I reactivated a 3 day trial (why I was able to do this again, I am not quite sure.. I hope I don’t get a nasty surprise in the near future) and a day later I am chatting with a seemingly nice guy- though very work oriented.  I’ll see how this one goes but I have no high expectations.  He seems very work oriented and, though he says he likes a girl with a sense of…

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• Nov 19, The No Contact Rule: Does it Really Help You to Heal After a Breakup?

  19 Nov 2009 | 11:48 am

  Many people talk about the no contact rule after a breakup. What is it? How does it work? Can it help you to get your ex back?

• Nov 10, Time to Think Things Through

  10 Nov 2009 | 10:33 am

  I have been in this relationship for almost 5 years. Lately, I have been getting this feeling that something is not right. A few weeks ago he

• Nov 9, The Seven Year Itch

  9 Nov 2009 | 2:05 pm

  I had just gotten out of a seven year relationship when I met my new man who in turn became my husband. We met and were engaged wthin 3 months. We

• Nov 3, Fun First Date Ideas: Impress that Special Someone

  3 Nov 2009 | 3:58 pm

  First date ideas for people who want to do just a little bit more to impress your guy or girl

• Oct 31, The Sad Love Story: Love Can Be So Cruel

  31 Oct 2009 | 12:20 pm

  Readers tell us their own sad love story. Sometimes love doesn't turn out the way you intended it to. Tell us about it.

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• Success Story: How Closure Made Me Stronger

  Eddie Corbano

  2 Nov 2009 | 11:17 am

  The following email from our regular reader “Sachao” from Germany is a very inspiring success story about getting closure and your strength back after she had to face her Ex. What would YOU do, if you ran into your Ex continuously after returning to a small town after 6 months no-contact? Please read on. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 7 months when I had to go abroad for a semester (6months) to study. I was very excited to go to France and my ex, who had traveled a lot himself, was always very supportive. Of course, it was a challenge: only together for 7 months and then…

• What Is YOUR Purpose In Life?

  Eddie Corbano

  8 Oct 2009 | 1:20 am

  I wrote earlier about the necessity of pursuing a purpose in life and its significance for achieving happiness and a strong sense of self. Especially after a break up or divorce a new direction is important for gaining a new perspective in life. The following short inspirational story reminds us what joy following your life purpose can bring into your life. Author Joseph Campbell often talked about "following your bliss." I heard of a bus driver in Chicago who does just that. He sings while he drives. That’s right… SINGS! And I don’t mean he sings softly to…

• Have YOU Made These Mistakes After Your Relationship Break Up?

  Eddie Corbano

  25 Aug 2009 | 3:29 am

  Months, or even years after a relationship break up, we will fully realize the fatal mistakes we made right after it happened. Especially the panic controlled actions that made us appear as a different person – often we don’t recognize ourselves any more. It can bring out the worst in us. It usually happens that we hate ourselves later for the things we’ve done. This is understandable, but the wrong thing to do. Not only does it damage our self-esteem, which is urgently needed for the recovery, (what’s left of it), but it also destroys the new concept of self-love we are trying to…

• Is It OK To Snoop In Your Partner’s Email?

  Frank and Michelle

  18 Aug 2009 | 1:10 am

  This is a guest article by Michelle F. from lovingfromadistance.com. Is checking your boyfriend or girlfriend’s email okay? In a word, NO. I would never give my boyfriend the password to my email address and he would never give me his. Is it because we don’t trust each other? No. We value our privacy and respect each other’s privacy. We trust each other completely. Why is sharing your passwords with your boyfriend or girlfriend not the smartest thing to do? A boyfriend innocently gives his girlfriend his password to his email so she can check something for him when he…

• Love Until Madness – Did It Happen To You?

  Eddie Corbano

  8 Aug 2009 | 12:43 am

  “There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.” - Friedrich Nietzsche Let me tell you a little story about my visit to the mountains of Turkey many years ago. I met this beautiful, intelligent girl from Turkey, with crazy dark curly hair. We had this great relationship going and one day she asked me if I would like to learn her origins and travel to Turkey with her. I said “of course”, and the next thing I know I was on sitting on an airplane on my way to Anatolia, (the mountain region of Turkey). Over the next few days she showed me her…

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• My husband is married to his career! Help!

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  17 Nov 2009 | 2:48 pm

• When To Say I Love You

  tamsen@sassybean.com

  17 Nov 2009 | 2:40 pm

  Dear Matt and Tamsen, How long should I wait to say I love you?

• 10 Foods to Avoid on a First Date

  tamsen@sassybean.com

  28 Jul 2009 | 11:27 am

  I know you already have enough to worry about, but I feel it’s my duty to share my neuroses instead of keeping them all to myself. So if you’re having a meal on your first date, here are ten items you might want to steer clear of: 1. Beans – for obvious reasons, and who wants that story repeatedly told if the relationship goes long term. 2. Spinach – gotta keep your smile clean, and no one wants the possibility of instantly massive forearms (ug-gug-gug-gug). 3. Water – goes right through you, and too many trips to the bathroom keeps them guessing. 4. Meat – what if they’re…

• Don’t Go Dutch On Dates

  tamsen@sassybean.com

  5 Jun 2009 | 8:32 pm

  You’ve got it all: a career, a killer wardrobe, and a date for Friday night. All is right with the world, and you’re hoping it will be even “righter” if that first date turns into something more. But before you go, keep in mind a rule that can set the tone for an entire relationship: let your man pick up the check. Forcing the guy to foot the bill may seem unfair, but quashing his chivalry could cost a lot more than cash—you may be sending him the message that you just want to be friends. Plus, letting your date pay for calamari and cocktails allows him to demonstrate his good…

• What do you want to know?

  tamsen@sassybean.com

  5 Jun 2009 | 8:26 am

  Why hasn’t he called? Is he still sleeping with his ex? When will he be ready for a real relationship? The questions go on and on. But, now there is answer. Check out AskMattandTamsen.com if you need some help in the love department. We will be posting new video daily in response to readers questions. For articles on love, life and relationships, check out SassyBean’s Dating and Relationship sections. AskMattandTamsen.com

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• The Foolproof Way to Get Over Your Ex

  15 Nov 2009 | 12:00 am

  If there was only one thing you had to do to get over an ex would you do it? Relationship expert Lisa Steadman has the secret for a quick breakup recovery.

• How to Get Out of Your Dating Rut

  12 Nov 2009 | 12:00 am

  Going out with the same men over and over? Are the guys asking you out not what you want? Learn to get out of your dating rut and find the man you really want.

• Top 10 Reasons to Tie the Knot

  5 Nov 2009 | 12:00 am

  Walking down the aisle can be daunting, but there are some definite perks. Here are the top 10 reasons to tie the knot.10. You’ll always have someone to bring you chicken soup when you’re sick in bed.9. You’ll have two sets of parents to give you holiday gifts.8. You’ll never have to ask, “So,...

• What His Age Means for Your Relationship

  3 Nov 2009 | 12:00 am

  Can you make a relationship work despite an age gap? Find out the pros and cons of dating a significantly younger or older partner.

• The Relationship Middle Ground: Where Is This Going?

  27 Oct 2009 | 12:00 am

  Between dating and a full-blown relationship, there’s always an awkward period where you’re not sure how to act. Should you answer his phone, buy him a gift? We help you decide.

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  The Spiritual Way To Attract "the One"™ from The Love Guru Blaire Allison

• How To Pick The Best of the Best as Your Life Partner

  9 Nov 2009 | 1:46 pm

  Dating Tips Video: How To Pick The Best of the Best as Your Life Partnerby The Love Guru Blaire Allisonwww.loveguru.netBlaire Allison is a Love Expert known as the Love Guru. She's also an Intuitive Heart Healer with the gift to open and heal your heart so you can attract the love you desire. Blaire teaches an easier, more natural, flowing way to attract love - what she calls "The Spiritual Way to Attract "the One". Blaire has been featured in the NY Times, LA Times, MSNBC, Montel Show, Inside Edition, Glamour Magazine, etc. She's the host of the popular Love Life (Heart) Confessions Radio…

• You're Invited... Awaken In Your Sexuality Class - NYC

  6 Oct 2009 | 11:20 am

  NYC Class - Awaken In Your Sexuality Class Most women are "asleep" when it comes to their sexualityDoing sexual things for men on autopilotWhy?Because we feel we have to do them... rather than doing them because we truly want toThere are pressures that come along with being a womanPressures that come along with being a sexual womanAre you aware of these pressures?How do you deal with them?(by the way, if you're like most women you're not even aware of how these pressures affect your love life and your sexual encounters) Are You Awake, Aware, Truly Feeling and Knowing Your MotivationsWhen It…

• Announcing "The Power of the Penis" Class

  6 Oct 2009 | 7:24 am

  The Power of the PenisThe Penis has Power.Power to excite you. Power to entice you. Power to scare you away.Yes, that's right... I said scare you away.The Penis Can Be Scary. * "Wow - it's soo big, do I really have to put it all in my mouth?" * "I gag when giving blow jobs" * "I don't like the way his sperm smells... it makes me nauseas" * "I hate giving blow jobs.. it gets boring.. he takes too long.." * "Ohh no, he's so small.. what do I do now? I don't want to make him feel bad.." * "The balls.. what am I supposed to do with the balls?" * "I feel unsure about my technique.. am I doing a…

• Honoring Myself. Shopping For A Lover

  24 Sep 2009 | 8:13 am

  Honoring Myself. Shopping For A Lover"Lately Blaire is boy crazy. Going out clubbing. Going to bars. Hitting on boys. All she can post about on Facebook and Twitter is men, men, men."Yes, that's true. Lately I've been on a manhunt. Why? Cause I'm shopping for a lover. Yep, you read it right... Blaire's "shopping" for a lover.I know, I know... I debated about sharing this with you guys - had thoughts of keeping it to myself but I've always been honest with you, I've always "kept it real" about what's going on in my love life, so why would I stop now? Should I hold back just because I'm talking…

• Meeting Men at Bars. Meet Men at the Gym - The Love Guru

  22 Sep 2009 | 11:55 am

  Meeting Men at Bars. Meet Men at the Gym - The Love GuruBlaire Allison The Love Guru will teach you how to attract "the One". Featured in over 90 media outlets worldwide (NY Times, LA Times, MSNBC, CNN, etc). For a free gift on getting started attracting love, go to www.loveguru.net/gift.html

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  LuvemOrLeavem Relationships

• Love, Lies and Body Language

  AdviceMaven

  17 Nov 2009 | 12:44 pm

  Internet dating has made finding love easier for many people, yet many people also find that it has made it easier for daters to lie.  This isn’t to say that there hasn’t always been a lot of lying in the world of dating, but when you meet someone over the internet it easier for them to lie to you than if you had met them through a friend (or even a friend of a friend.)  Now of course if the relationship progresses, it becomes more difficult to lie and the truth often gets revealed.  The problem is that most women don’t want to find out many dates later that the guy who…

• What is the Appeal of Metro Men?

  AdviceMaven

  10 Nov 2009 | 2:37 pm

  When choosing a man, there used to be a popular saying that went like this: “never date a man who is prettier than you are.”  The implication was that a man who spent too much time worrying about his appearance was either untrustworthy and always on the lookout for a new woman, or he was actually gay.  Back then these men were often called pretty boys, but these days they tend to be called metrosexuals, which is sometimes shortened to metro men. For the most part, I think that the changes are positive in the way society defines men and the role of men.  I think it’s great…

• When Should You Get Married?

  AdviceMaven

  4 Nov 2009 | 7:50 pm

  Last week we tackled the topic of marrying young on our video blog.  We all had varying ideas about the role that getting married young played in helping or hurting the chances of a marriage surviving, but we agreed that age itself was not the main factor in determining when you should get married.  Of course there are factors that determine when someone is ready to get married and I’ve tried to narrow it down to a few key questions to ask yourself when deciding if you are ready to be married. Can You Support Yourselves?- Back when I got married this didn’t seem to be an…

• Can Big Age Differences Work?

  AdviceMaven

  29 Oct 2009 | 5:44 pm

  Sometimes it just works out that the person you fall in love with is many years older or younger than you are.  Although there is not an official age difference that defines what is known as a “May-December romance,” its definition is that it is a relationship where the age difference “is greater than what is socially the norm.”  On the low end of the scale people start to classify a relationship as May-December when there is an age gap in the eight to ten year range.  By the time a fifteen year gap is reached, nearly everyone defines the relationship this way.

• Common Excuses for Cheating

  AdviceMaven

  26 Oct 2009 | 3:47 pm

  Recently, our video blogging team tackled the topic “Why Do People Have Affairs?”  Two of our vloggers were brave enough to interview people on the streets of New York City, and they even got a few people who had cheated to admit their reasons for cheating.  For my part, I went through the postings on LuvemOrLeavem and compiled a list of the 3 most common excuses that men had given their women for why they cheated. Excuses Men Gave Women to Explain Cheating: 1. Newness/ Excitement- One very common excuse was that over time the relationship had gotten stale and the newness and…

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  The Dating Papers

• Who Should Pay On The First Date?

  Contributor

  20 Nov 2009 | 11:11 pm

  by Jane Wonder On a first date technically the person who asked should really pay. For me, this will always mean the guy because I will wait for him to ask. Honestly though, I’d prefer for the man to step up no matter what. Which is not to say I expect that or don’t offer or won’t pay in the future. Every good female dater knows exactly how to handle this. In case you don’t know, let me explain… The check comes. The woman should automatically reach for her purse and say something like “Let me help you with that.” This gives the man options. If he didn’t intend to pay the…

• The Four Seasons of a Relationship

  Seth

  19 Nov 2009 | 10:11 pm

  Do you have a favorite season? Most people experience seasons in a romantic relationship. In New England (the northeastern part of the United States) we have four seasons. Spring, Summer, Autumn, and Winter. In relationships, especially long-term ones, we can observe similar seasons. The Four Seasons of a Relationship Spring - In the spring of a relationship, we experience the thrill of discovery, obsession, and emotional (and often, physical) penetration that precedes new growth and attachments. Springtime offers a mad rush of delightful sensations. Remember what it feels like to touch…

• Your Insight Please: What Does This Mean?

  Simon Cole

  17 Nov 2009 | 1:58 pm

  I just received an email containing a link to this video: The email contained only these words: Let me know if you’d like to talk. The email address had the first and last name of a woman I haven’t seen or heard from in more than two years. When I knew her, she didn’t have the sort of ironic wit that would inspire an email like this in jest. But perhaps there’s some cultural significance that I’m missing and it is, entirely, just a funny way of saying hello? Your interpretations, please and thanks! RT @datingpapers Your Insight Please: What Does This Mean? Share…

• So there IS such a thing as a stupid question: Are You Gay?

  Simon Cole

  11 Nov 2009 | 5:13 pm

  Facebook is a great place to be reminded of people you had happily forgotten. For example, I recently received a message from this girl I’d known years and years ago. (Like, when I was 8 years old) She’d apparently gone on a friend-anybody-I-remember-talking-to rampage and had decided to “reconnect” with me. Fair enough. She asks me about how I’m doing, what I’d been up to, and what I was reading. It just so happened that I’d visited my parents the previous day and flipped through a copy of Martha Stewart Living my mom had left out. There was an image…

• Why Men Don’t Want To Date Strong Women

  Simon Cole

  10 Nov 2009 | 5:48 pm

  Remember that old line about girls being sugar, spice, and everything nice? Elizabeth Lambert saw that societal mold coming and extended one of her long, muscular legs for a perfect trip. How? By playing soccer like a boy: (If you ask me, the ponytail maneuver was pretty bold. She didn’t get a yellow card for that though. Not condoning her actions, but I love her pep and think the Refs were sleeping.) Most guys aren’t interested in dating women like Elizabeth, Condoleezza, Hillary, or Michelle. Why? Because strong women with talent, focus, and goals are intimidating to those who…

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  Ditch or Snog

• What Makes The Best Wife in the World?

  Sally

  11 Nov 2009 | 5:14 am

  I was really touched by a comment left by Matt on my article why can’t I find a husband, giving a link to his blog titled “Best Wife in the World”.  To date his new blog consists of just one post but what a post, explaining why he has the best wife in the world. I have never searched the internet for the term “Best Wife in the World” before and was surprised how many web pages contain this phrase. I feel sure we all remember Tom Cruise and his antics on the Oprah show, declaring his love. This had such an impact in America that urban dictionaries now include the…

• The Best Relationship Tip | Dating Advice

  Sally

  3 Nov 2009 | 3:03 pm

  If you could give just one relationship tip to couples what would it be? This is a question I was asked recently and finding just one gem of dating advice which covers every couple, whether newly dating or in a long term relationship, wasn’t easy. I dismissed the dating advice on how to meet someone and fall in love, this often happens naturally, even when we don’t expect it, as doesn’t cover people already in long term relationships. Much of the relationship advice I would give is for married couples or people in long term relationships, so this doesn’t cover those in…

• The A to Z of Love | E

  Sally

  14 Oct 2009 | 1:12 pm

  Entertain. How often do you hear couples talk about the “honeymoon period” of a relationship and what life is like after it is over. Usually about 6 to 12 months into a serious relationship the magic tarnishes and people can begin to feel a little bored in each others company. This really is a normal process, as the excitement of getting to know each other drifts into familiarity. While we are first dating we work hard to entertain each other, to think of funny stories, interesting places to go and how we can present ourselves in the best light. The most successful long term…

• Twitter Invaded by Adult Dating Sites

  Sally

  9 Sep 2009 | 5:14 pm

  I am not a huge fan of Twitter as I don’t do technology and to be honest I end up spending all day following interesting links and getting no work done. However, after some time ignoring it and hoping it will go away I decided to give it another whirl tonight and guess what … Twitter has been invaded by adult dating sites. I logged in tonight to check out the twitter feed of a blogger I particularly enjoy reading (it’s about farming so I won’t bore you with a link). In my list of friends was a Tweet from Mike at KK Smarts (he’s an adwords guru and a thoroughly…

• The A to Z of Love | C

  Sally

  1 Sep 2009 | 9:55 pm

  Lets continue our journey through the A to Z of Love with the letter C. The letter A stood for Admire in our A to Z of Love. We looked at why it’s important to take time to admire your partner both mentally and physically and how this continued practice can help sustain a loving long term relationship. Then the letter B stood for Balance in our relationships. We suggested finding a healthy balance between work and home life, between caring for your children and caring for your partner and balancing our own sexual needs and those of our partner. The letter C stands for Compliment.

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  YourTango: Dating

• Drew Barrymore Chucks Justin Long From Home

  Kelly Barbieri

  20 Nov 2009 | 11:00 am

  We love Drew Barrymore, but you have to admit that the woman has some odd taste in men. Not surprisingly, her latest foray into romance with Mac spokesman and actor Justin Long may have hit another speed bump, which is sad, because the couple look so darn cute together.Keywords: breaking up, celebitchy, communication, Dating, Drew Barrymore, Justin LongBookmark/Share this post with: read more

• Easy Ways To Kick Your Bad Dating Habits

  Carly Okyle

  18 Nov 2009 | 8:04 am

  Nobody's perfect, but if your relationships tend to peter out after, oh, two dates or so, your romance MO might be due for a checkup. Five common dating habits are most often to blame.Keywords: bad habit, date, Dating, dating advice, dating tips, love buzz, singleBookmark/Share this post with:

• Are You Hot Enough For This Dating Site?

  Melissa

  17 Nov 2009 | 9:17 am

  BeautifulPeople.com is a dating site for the beautiful. But don't expect admission if you're British.Keywords: appearance, attraction, beauty, brazil, british, Dating, dating site, hot, love buzz, online dating, single, SwedenBookmark/Share this post with: read more

• Online Dating Meets Adult Gaming

  Melissa

  16 Nov 2009 | 12:09 pm

  Too lazy to leave the house to find love? A new dating site assigns you a virtual body that does all the work. Named after Amsterdam's Red Light District, RedLightSocialCenter.com, hopes to take the online nice-to-meet you experience one step further by assigning users a body and a menu of racy date activities. Keywords: avatar, date, Dating, dating site, meet, men, online dating, sex, single, womenBookmark/Share this post with: read more

• 4 Tips For A Holiday Fling

  Melissa

  16 Nov 2009 | 7:47 am

  The holidays are right around the corner, and if egg nog, stuffing and Bing Crosby's "White Christmas" do mysterious things to your libido—fear not. We suffer from the Holiday Friskies, too. We feel your sexually frustrated pain. Whether your parents' guest bedroom has you aching for another's or a holiday getaway is in order, there's nothing like a few guilt-free days off to initiate a bold try with what's-his-name from high school or that-one-over-there at the resort bar (if you're fancy). Regardless, the holidays are a perfect time for a no-strings-attached fling. Here are a few ways to…

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  Sex, Lies and Dating in the City

• 8 8 I forget what 8 was for

  Simone Grant

  20 Nov 2009 | 5:25 am

  How did it get to be the week before Thanksgiving?  Seriously? Anyway, this is a leading up to Thanksgiving post.   When I think of Thanksgiving, I think of sharing and I think of friends (yeah, and being thankful, too).  But really, for me it's more about the sharing and the friends.  So today I wanted to share some of the blogs that I've been reading lately.  Some of these I've mentioned already.  Most I haven't. Kiss & Blog:  from a post last week called Friday Fluffer - Rock Her World; "One advantage of writing a blog vaguely about sex is that people send me interesting…

• People Change

  Simone Grant

  19 Nov 2009 | 5:22 am

  People change, but not always the way we want them to.  I'm just going to throw that out there as a starting point. I apologize if I've already told this story, or parts of this story.  A long, long time ago I was a young college student.  Not a young, naive college student.  I don't, actually, remember ever being naive.  But I was young.  And for a while I had this boyfriend who I'll call D.  D was very, very cute.  And kinda not very bright.  But very, very cute.  He was a few years older than me and claimed to have graduated from college a couple of years earlier (not the same…

• Can Anyone Have It All?

  Simone Grant

  18 Nov 2009 | 6:23 am

  I have a very distinct memory of, when I was in elementary school, my family having Chinese food every Friday night for dinner.  It was the only night of the week that we all sat around the table and ate as a family. Most other nights my mom just gave us what we were having to eat in front of the television (there were lots of these TV dinners for kids that had fried chichen and tater tots - mmm tater tots).  Mom would eat sometime after that, alone in the kitchen and then, hours later, she would serve my dad his dinner when he got home.  He worked long hours and had a long commute and so…

• Pretty Please With Sugar On Top

  Simone Grant

  17 Nov 2009 | 5:34 am

  Recently, The Frisky did a post/poll called What Would Get You To Take Your Ex Back?  I found it interesting for all of the obvious reasons.  Here were the options they gave readers to vote for: The way back to my heart is through my stomach. Candies, wining and dining, a special home-cooked meal, etc. Yep, that does the trick. Candy is nice, but I'm into jewelry and fancy cars. You think Kim from "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" takes Big Poppa back for less? It's hard to admit when I'm wrong. If he wants to talk it out, I know he cares and that's the only reason to stay together. I'm in…

• The Other Women

  Simone Grant

  16 Nov 2009 | 5:27 am

  Several times, in the last few weeks, I've been asked if I've ever dated a married man/if I'd be willing to write about that topic.  It's something I've shied away from in the past because I didn't want to cause a stir or offend anyone (seriously).  But since I've been repeatedly asked, here goes: I have never, to my knowledge, dated or had any kind of relationship with a married guy.  I say, to my knowledge because (some) people lie.  And I'm sure there has been at least one guy in my past who told me he was divorced or single when in reality he was married.  I had a several month…

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  Vanae: Your Relationship Guide

• Game Dae Wednesdae: One Change

  Two games ago about super powers, I told you that I would choose the ability to change one thing for each person. So if you had the opportunity, what would be THE ONE thing you would change in your life? Mine would be: My younger brother would be alive with me today. V'stars, what ...

• Game Dae Wednesdae: Angry face

  Hey v'stars! For this week's activity, you actually get to be in my upcoming episode! Show me your most angry face and behavior in a 5 sec video clip (.mov file) and send to ayvanae@gmail.com. I'll be compiling these bad boys and you'll see the finished product soon! And here's a treat ...

• Kicking off: Presenting your Confidence

  This is the first episode on the special edition of Presenting your Confidence (Style, hair, & make-up). Because your outside should reflect how you feel on the inside and give you a booster to your confidence as well. Before I jump in talking about hair tips, I give a quick update ...

• ASK VANAE: Invitation from the ex

  ASK VANAE FRIDAE Q. Hey Vanae, my ex girlfriend invited me to her bday party at a club/lounge. We've been broken up for about 3 months now but i don't think im ready to see her with another guy. She claims she's doesn't have a new man or no one speical ...

• Game Dae Wednesdae: Super-power

  Helloooo V'stars! Let's do a fun Game Dae Wednesdae. Alright, if you could possess one super power, what would it be? Mine would be: the ability to grant a 'change' per person! So everyone I encounter would be able to change one thing in their life. Rules: the change has to be ...

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  Online Dating Insider

• Online Dating Insider Twitter Feed Now Featuring Lists

  David Evans

  19 Nov 2009 | 9:16 am

  Instead of posting link-dumps to the blog every few days, notable nuggets of news will be published to @datinginsider. Fear not the Twitter-averse, those tweets will show up in the sidebar of Online Dating Insider as well. You can scroll back through the most recent 15 posts and easily click through to the full tweets on Twitter. If you are involved in the online dating industry in any way, subscribe to @datinginsider and I’ll follow you and if I think you make the cut, I’ll add you to one of the Twitter lists I’ve started. Right now the only lists are marketing , safety…

• Is DNA Dating Drawing Near, or Still Olfactorily Repugnant

  David Evans

  18 Nov 2009 | 12:55 pm

  Slashdot article New Dating Sites Match People Through DNA Tests. I love /., as it’s called, check out these comments: Yeah… Submit your DNA profile to a for-profit corporation that lets you do things with it through a web interface. Your info will never be hacked. Your info will never be sold. Your info will never be given to government agencies. Trust us. I didn’t RTFA, because I can proudly say that I was involved in the group that produced MHC mediated sexual selection studies that ScientificMatch.com uses to claim their rationale. A few comments: First, if Scientific…

• Online Dating Industry Weekly Wrapup 11-13-09

  David Evans

  13 Nov 2009 | 10:46 am

  This was a big week for (re)connecting with people, including Hollywood types wanting to partner with dating sites, a dating startup making some serious cash you’ve never heard of, The New York Times, TheDatingLab, Trilibis, DatingHeadshots, Milabra, Intelius (Korbster!), working on a few things with DatingDNA, a few investors, Moonit, and a bunch of people I can’t mention publicly. On my mind: Sam at BlackBox Republic, Meetmoi, viximo and Thread (which is copying HotorNot/Zoosk/Are You Interested but doing interesting Kismeet-style matchmaking). Farmville is down on Facebook and…

• Buying and Selling Facebook and Twitter Friends

  David Evans

  12 Nov 2009 | 5:12 pm

  uSocial.net — the company who recently began selling followers on Twitter — has just launched a new suite of services for Facebook, enabling people to purchase friends and fans depending on their needs. But why would someone want to buy their friends on Facebook? Well according to company CEO Leon Hill, that’s a very easy question to answer. “Facebook is an extremely effective marketing tool as anyone with a large number of targeted friends or fans can attest to.” Said Hill. “The only problem is that it can be extremely difficult to achieve such a following, which is where…

• Match.com Application Available on Apple’s App Store

  David Evans

  12 Nov 2009 | 5:07 pm

  Old news but thought I would re-iterate here. For those of you who haven’t tried a mobile dating application, I was playing around with the Match.com iPhone application and I found it to be quite slick. Fingers crossed it fares better than the various ill-fated Facebook applications Match mucked around with. The new Match.com application for iPhone and iPod touch provides members with the ability to easily communicate with the more than 15 million Match.com members wherever they go. Match.com members can edit their profile from their iPhone and iPod touch and upload photos to their…

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  Harassed Mom

• Its time to P-A-R-T-Y

  LauraKim

  19 Nov 2009 | 11:00 pm

  WOOOT Exams are OVER people!!!!! I survived in one piece and am relatively sane It is now time to PARTY!!!!! And we have much partying planned!

• Run away with me

  LauraKim

  18 Nov 2009 | 9:10 pm

  Its been a little bit of an odd week. I was very down on Monday and Tuesday and not really sure why. Wednesday was better though – I think its because I got to see my man My last exam is tomorrow and I really am BEYOND excited. I am going to go to Plane [...]

• Snap

  LauraKim

  17 Nov 2009 | 8:03 pm

  You know at school how you used to play with your rulers and bend it and bend it until it snapped? I felt like that yesterday. The person I snapped at was Plane Boy. I wasnt nice and it was over something so totally silly – the 27 Dinner. Two seconds later I snapped at one [...]

• There is ALWAYS a silver lining.

  LauraKim

  16 Nov 2009 | 8:15 pm

  I had a bad day yesterday. My exam was horrible. Kiara was in a mood and ended up getting a smack – which calmed her and she went to bed no problems. Plane Boy had a bad day. Wenchy had a bad day. On my way home from my exam their were 4 seperate bumper bashings – they all [...]

• We do not remember days; we remember moments.

  LauraKim

  15 Nov 2009 | 6:08 am

  This weekend as the stuff memories are made of. It wasnt that we did anything spectacular or out of the ordinary – it was simply that we were doing it together. Friday night we went to watch England beat South Africa at Wanderers. It was one of those unfair matches as it was rained out and the [...]

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  Relationship Underarm Stick

• Every time I think I’ve seen it all…

  Alessia

  20 Nov 2009 | 12:40 pm

  This time it’s NBC’s casting call that has me arching my brows and tilting my head like the old RCA dog. Does anyone else find “Do You and Your Spouse Argue about Burial Plots?” It’s not that I don’t think people argue about these things; I’m sure they do. Fundamentally it’s simply a matter of values related to money and spirituality, and respectfully working those issues out, right? But somehow I don’t think NBC is going to have the couple work through the real issues of, “He wants a pyramid and I don’t!” Based on what…

• Are Movies Good Date Options?

  Alessia

  19 Nov 2009 | 2:22 pm

  I’m not one to advocate going to a movie for a first date; other than the discussion of what movie to see, there’s little opportunity for conversation. And dates — especially first dates — are all about conversation, the chance to learn about one another. You need to know something about the other person in order to enjoy the snuggle-up time. Teenage Couple Necking in a Movie Theater However, some people find the lack of conversation more relaxing for a first date — and others find themselves going to movies on a first date because that’s what the other…

• 13 Things Not To Say On The First Date

  Alessia

  19 Nov 2009 | 12:51 pm

  Funny and wise tips found on Twitter: marceldavis #nottosayonfirstdate I love you RyanDenyse #nottosayonfirstdate my ex cheated on me and gave me a STD SecretSiren I’m sorry if I seem nervous. I don’t usually date outside the family #nottosayonfirstdate rauldg DAMN YOUR MOM IS HOT #nottosayonfirstdate Koolmojay #nottosayonfirstdate “Can i borrow $20?” Thisrespekwear #nottosayonfirstdate my curfew is at 10pm tejas74 How much do you weigh. And im not asking becuase you look fat its jthe sex swing in the bedroom is only rated to 160lbs #NotToSayOnFirstDate PurestEmotion…

• Cosmo Aims To Sweep Her Off Her Feet With Bad Sex Advice

  Alessia

  17 Nov 2009 | 12:56 pm

  At Motherhood Metamorphosis, Deanna writes, “You Know Sex Ed Is Really Bad When… Cosmo can’t even get it right. In their instructions for Sex Position of the Day: Sensual Shower, their diagram for how to achieve erotic thrills literally misses the mark — the genitals don’t even line up.” And then she proves the point, by illustrating the error of Cosmo’s ways.  (If you’re a curious grown-up who won’t be offended, click here to see the line drawings.) The one thing that Deanna failed to note is that along with impossible penetration, the…

• Does Makeup Keep You From Getting Laid? (Or, When He Professes He Likes The ‘Natural’ Look)

  Alessia

  13 Nov 2009 | 1:25 pm

  Don’t you just hate it when your man turns to you and says, “I like you better without make-up,” or makes some comment about how he “prefers the natural look” — and you remember how you looked when you met, all dolled-up. You (and I) know that he was drawn to you for how you looked that night… His lust was written all over his face — in his own drool! Yet here is now, acting like that never ever happened. Infuriating, isn’t it? So just what is the deal, anyway? Is he complaining about the artifice because he feels tricked? No, not if…

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  Shmitten Kitten

• Pics and Vids: Tie Grabbing and Pole Swingin

  19 Nov 2009 | 12:12 pm

  Somewhere, deep, deep, deep inside our brain, a part of us thinks that it's really hot to grab a guy's necktie while we're dancing and wrap it around our neck like a noose. Yes, like, a necktie noose. We don't know where we picked up this habit. We're not sure if we saw someone doing it once on TV and a part of our reptile brain thought, "Why, yes! What a great dance move. We shall try that." This was our signature move for almost an entire season last year.  But, as we watch this hilarious video, we have to question everything about what goes on in our brain. Is this what we looked…

• Things In His House That Make Me Sad: His Tiny, Overflowing Wastebasket

  19 Nov 2009 | 7:51 am

  With just two Q-tips, four cotton balls, a used Kleenex, and a used disposable razor, this thing is at maximum capacity. I hate it! Even Oscar the Grouch would scoff at this thing. And, he LOVES trash! In fact, it looks like Oscar the Grouch puked up all over this bathroom after having three Sparks and dancing his ass off at Making Time.  Since it's so small, it fills up with flotsam almost immediately. The grocery store bag he uses for the lining is too big and it slumps over the sides like it hates its life. Honestly, we don't blame it. That trash bag probably envisioned itself growing…

• Surprisingly Not a Bonerkiller: You Talk in Your Sleep

  18 Nov 2009 | 4:41 pm

  I bolt upright in the middle of the night.You said something to me and now I'm half-awake. I hear you say something again. You're mumbling. Please tell me that this is not your way of trying to put the moves on me. What the hell, dude? I'm awake now, so enunciate for the love of God! Oh wait, you're talking but you aren't talking to me; you're just chattering away in your sleep. Awesome. How am I just realizing now that you're a sleeptalker? I channel Yosemite Sam--or even Naomi Campbell--toward anything that wakes me before the sun is up. As a freelancer, I've worked way too hard to achieve…

• Tip Our Hats: Guys Who Use Funny Voices To Crack Me Up

  17 Nov 2009 | 7:31 pm

  I hold a special place in my heart for guys who talk in funny voices just to amuse me. I freakin' love it when he bellows out in his best union boss boom, "Why you gotta bust-a my stones? I've been workin' the docks all week. Cut-ta me some-a slack here." His voice is exaggeratedly low, with his hands gesturing wildly around him. I am lapping it up. I'm rolling around on the couch, clutching my sides in laughter, and wiping the tears away from my face. "Do it again! Do it again!" I cackle, gasping for air. I also really love when he talks like Tony Danza from Who's the Boss. "Angeler! Why is…

• Bonerkiller: Guys Who Prop Their Sunglasses on Their Head

  16 Nov 2009 | 4:28 pm

  These guys think that they look like this; a rock 'n' roll rebel who doesn't give a fuck about speed limits, a bar's closing time and whether you have a boyfriend or not: But, in reality, he looks like this; an old, rumpled Cabo Wabo-er with a bug eyed, wiry tiara perched on his head: Guys who use their shades as a fashion accessory are the same kinds of guys who think Hank Moody from Californication is a badass because he bangs college chicks and has a dusty Porche. Don't these guys know that if they just folded their shades into the collar of their shirt they'd look roughly ten thousand…

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  TechCoquette

• Booty Call Texting: The Morning After

  Rachel Wilkerson

  20 Nov 2009 | 2:00 am

  If you’ve managed to successfully execute a Late Night Booty Text and score some Late Night Booty, congratulations! Welcome to the wonderful world of no-strings-attached sex. While you may just want to bask in your JBF glow, your work is not quite done. The message you send after a booty call sends a strong message, and you want to be sure to get it right, minimizing awkwardness and maximizing the potential for another romp in the near future. The main objective should be to let him know you enjoyed yourself and that you know where you stand. It’s good to give a guy an ego boost and not…

• LinkCoquette: Facebook, Online Dating, Texting

  Jeffrey Kishner

  18 Nov 2009 | 6:19 am

  Text and the CityFrom: (title unknown)Sex and the City was the closet thing to a relationship therapist we’ve ever had. In every episode one of the girls goes through something relatable that helped us through a similar situation. We were obsessed with the show for that reason, and felt that besides their insanely amazing wardrobes, the girls were pretty much just like [...]Are You Hot Enough For This Dating Site?From: YourTango | The Latest Smart Talk About LoveBeautifulPeople.com is a dating site for the beautiful. But don't expect admission if you're British.Keywords: appearance,…

• Take Your Texting to the Next Level

  Rachel Wilkerson

  16 Nov 2009 | 2:00 am

  It’s always so exciting when you meet a new guy and exchange numbers. He’ll usually text you the same night, just saying it was good to have met you, and you’re in the cab, feeling quite euphoric. You text back, he responds the next morning, and so on and so forth. All week at work, you get a little grin when your phone goes off with another flirty text from him. But by the next weekend, you might still be grounded in Text City, when you really want to take off to Dateopolis. Here’s how to get him to take it to the next level: First, do some research. (Um, stalking.) Can you friend…

• Bad Reputation: Doing Damage Control on Your Internet Profile

  Meghan Beresford

  13 Nov 2009 | 2:00 am

  In a previous post, we talked about how to figure out what the internet says about you. If you’ve googled yourself, it’s possible that you’ve found at least one or two things that surprise you. An unflattering picture, a bunch of petty comments about someone who gets your goat on an internet forum, or (worse) a pile of information that just paints an inaccurate picture of who you really are. If you find that you’re not pleased with how the internet reflects you, there are two basic approaches to fixing it: removing stuff, and patching up blank spots. You do what you can to control…

• Addicted to Online Dating?

  Rachel Wilkerson

  9 Nov 2009 | 2:00 am

  Once you get comfortable with online dating, it can actually be quite fun. In your office, you may be the frumpy secretary, but on the Internet, you’re the most popular girl in town! Everyone wants to talk to you and tell you how gorgeous your smile is and how unique your profile is. They all want to take you out. The winks start rolling in and the attention can be, well, addicting. The problem is that eventually, some people come to value the attention over face-to-face contact. It’s surprisingly easy to build up an emotionally intimate relationship without ever meeting someone in…

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  AstraMatch Blog

• Star Crossd Lovers Pt VII (matching with the stars): Libra with the others…..

  Pemo

  14 Nov 2009 | 4:16 pm

  This is the seventh of a 12 part series on matching with the zodiac. Libra with the other zodiac signs – Hot or Not? Click here to view the embedded video. For more detail about how you match with other zodiac signs check out an older post here You can find Virgo with the other zodiac signs here You can find Leo with the other zodiac signshere You can find Cancer with the other zodiac signs here You can find Gemini with the other zodiac signs here You can find Taurus with the other zodiac signs here You can find Aries with the other zodiac signs here

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  Single Black Male

• The Claim Game: Revisited

  SBM

  19 Nov 2009 | 10:00 pm

  *** Admin Note *** A little “snafu” earlier this week cause Streetz’ masterpiece to get posted way to late in the day (yeah … I f*’d up … I got a lot going on). So … enjoy it all over again - SBM ******************* Whether you hit a house party, a club, wedding, or other social gathering with groups of friends, you’ll always come across a team of people that the crew is feeling. One of the funniest situations between men and women when it comes to courting, is something I like to call “The Claim Game”. We, have played this game many…

• Is your friend obsessing over a guy?

  Dr.J

  18 Nov 2009 | 10:00 pm

  It can be extremely difficult to find the man of your dreams these days. And even still, finding him is the easy part, you’ve got to win him over too. It was once said, “You need to look in the mirror, maybe you’re not your type’s type.” Your friends may not be helpful either. I tend to believe that every group of female friends has a few single by choice, a few single because they’re hopeless, a few in relationships, and a few who say they’re in relationships. A person who over exaggerates their relationships can be such an annoyance. Either they are claiming that the guy is…

• The Claim Game

  streetztalk

  18 Nov 2009 | 9:17 am

  Whether you hit a house party, a club, wedding, or other social gathering with groups of friends, you’ll always come across a team of  people that the crew is feeling. One of the funniest situations between men and women when it comes to courting, is something I like to call “The Claim Game”. We, have played this game many times. The situation occurs when someone, who previously showed interest in a friend or colleague,  now wants to holla at you. You go to your friend requesting a Carfax (scouting report) on the individual to find out their status, and this can result in…

• What’s Your Love Language?

  Slim Jackson

  16 Nov 2009 | 10:00 pm

  This past weekend I got the book thrown at me. No, I didn’t get arrested this time. I’m talking about that “The 5 Love Languages for Singles” book by Gary Chapman. In my perusal of blog world and even this here website, I’ve seen women repeatedly mention these golden scriptures. I guess that would make sense with yall, the ladies, being the more lovey dovey EMOtional gender. Let’s just admit it. No point in denying the obvious. In all seriousness though, when I’ve seen this book in the past or heard women going off on one of their soapbox sermons…

• Why men lead women on … and vice versa

  SBM

  15 Nov 2009 | 10:00 pm

  As I perused the deeper regions of my mind searching for a topic, I decided to listen to the best readers in the world (yes … you) and hit our skribit page (a place where you can suggest topics for us to write on) and came across one troubled individual. why do women lead men on, and vice versa? Wait … your telling me people get stringed along?  You mean if I take a girl’s number, that means I like her? And when I don’t call her, I was stringing her along for asking in the first place? Sh* me … Without even knowing it, this person forced me to self reflect on…

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  Tart and Soul

• I Am Woman, Hear Me…Never Mind

  lwarrell

  16 Nov 2009 | 2:35 pm

  I want to be a man.  If only so I can feel good about myself when reading magazines.   I’m a smart, confident woman.  I subscribe to the Atlantic Monthly and Vanity Fair so I can stay abreast of liberal politics and sit in my “garden-level” apartment pretending to be an elitist, East Coast blueblood.  Lately though, I’ve been keeping up with women’s magazines for blog ideas.  And I gotta tell you, reading them makes you feel like dog doo.  First are all those supermodels and actresses with their awesomely toned bodies, shiny hair and perfect skin.  Their photos are surrounded…

• Sex, Scotch and Batman

  lwarrell

  8 Nov 2009 | 5:37 pm

  “You know what your problem is?” asked Dave.  Boy, do I love conversations that begin with this question.  Nothing’s more fun than having a know-it-all friend instruct you on the failings of your existence.   Fortunately, I wasn’t on the other end of Dave’s question.  My friend Kim was.  She was complaining about her romantic life and asking our friend Dave for advice.  The issue was sex appeal and how Kim simply oozes with it.  Men are drawn to her like she’s a hunk of steel and they’ve got magnets in their pants.  She has few limits, no fears and porn star levels of…

• People Really Do Make the World Go ‘Round

  lwarrell

  1 Nov 2009 | 4:13 pm

  A member of my family was just in the hospital for an out-of-the-blue medical emergency.  For a couple days things were dicey and the whole lot of us was concerned.  It’s hard to worry about your career, love life or even your soul when a person who used to change your diapers and sneak you Twinkies when your mom wouldn’t let you eat them, is lying unconscious in a hospital. Lately, I keep coming across articles and essays, surveys and polls, how-to books and talk shows about how to be happy.  I even wrote about it last week.  Supposedly, America is one enormous pool of misery and…

• Am I Unhappy?

  lwarrell

  25 Oct 2009 | 3:53 pm

  Time magazine says I’m unhappy.  And if you’re a woman, according to them, so are you.   Sometimes, I think I ought to chuck the whole writing thing and become a researcher investigating the myriad reasons women’s lives are so shitty.  Magazines and universities seem to be working around the clock to inform us dames how depressed we are.  How infertile we become each day.  How gaining too much weight during pregnancy will make us fat for the rest of our lives.  How men don’t like smart chicks and are intimidated by successful ones.  How females are more likely to die by…

• If I Strip for You, Will You Strip for Me?

  lwarrell

  18 Oct 2009 | 4:50 pm

  I didn’t want to be a stripper. Really, I have no idea what I wanted from the exotic dance class I’d enrolled in at an adult education center.  I didn’t know whether the course catalog’s promise to help “create a full repertoire of floor-routine and chair moves you can use in enticing performances” was an achievable or even worthwhile goal.  But there I was in a leotard and stilettos, undulating my hips against an inert and perfectly innocent chair. The first order of business on day one was to pick our stripper names.  The gaggle of married lady friends in matching pink…

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  Art of Seduction

• How To Seduce Women

  The Bright Side

  18 Nov 2009 | 10:26 am

  Okay, here’s a basic lesson about seduction for you guys out there: being men, you innately possess all the attractiveness you need to seduce women. He who wears no masks and is in full alignment with his masculinity shall get laid. Powerful words. Still, that’s not the whole story! As much as women will agree to the first part and hate to admit what comes now, learning how to behave plays a significant part in flirting. The “wrong” tenure, body language or composure can screw you big time before you get to screw anyone else. This is why with all the authenticity and…

• How To Meet Girls

  The Bright Side

  9 Nov 2009 | 10:21 am

  Hey, you’ve read the title, right? I’m not gonna give you a long intro here, just enough to give you a hint of what you should expect. When you’re trying to meet women, you’re going to have to surround yourself by them and put yourself in environments where you can talk to hundreds of women per day if needed. So let’s get right to it, this article is about how to meet girls, plain and simple. Here’s the meat: Put yourself into their trajectory. If you’re stuck working in a cubicle during your normal day job, then slowly start exploring more social…

• What To Say To a Girl

  The Bright Side

  3 Nov 2009 | 12:42 pm

  Sometimes, I ask myself if anybody ever counted how often the average man finds himself wondering what to say to a girl. If you did that, you would probably get a frightening daily ratio. “You’ll share an elevator, just you two, and you’ll rise in total silence to the floor”, Rupert Holmes sings in “The people that you never get to love”, a forgotten song from 1979. “Like the fool you are, you get off, and she leaves your life behind a closing door.” And we can all relate. I used to be desperate for any advice on how to meet girls: for a long…

• How To Never Get Rejected Again

  Chris Calo

  29 Oct 2009 | 10:27 am

  My friend Gambler has a download The-Rejection-Report.pdf so you NEVER GET REJECTED again. Gambler, who’s pretty much my pickup genius friend, just came out with a really under-the-radar way of approaching girls without setting off her automatic rejection mechanism! See, as much as I hate to admit it, the ‘Old Chris Calo wasn’t always good with women. I remember getting rejected all the time and I felt so bad! In fact, I probably felt WORSE than most guys and that’s what really pushed me to “figure all this out”. True Story: I once approached a girl in a…

• How To Stop Being Needy

  The Bright Side

  19 Oct 2009 | 3:13 pm

  “You reap what you’ve sown”. “Life’s what you make it”. Don’t you love those catchphrases that contain a world of value in just a few words? I have another one for you that is both easy to remember and powerful in its message: “stop needing, start wanting”. It’s time you take some steps to learn how to stop being needy: today’s article is about transforming it into a strong notion of “wanting”. Stop needing Life’s not fair. Did you ever notice how you attract women best when you’re on an emotional high,…

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  Love Poems & Tips on Relationship

• Used VS Loved

  Heeren Tanna

  20 Nov 2009 | 5:46 am

  A friend of mine sent me this story by email. I thought it would be good to post it here. When you read the last paragraph, think about what we’ve reviewed so far in Proverbs… Subject:... [[ This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only. The use of this feed on other websites breaches copyright. If this content is not in your news reader, it makes the page you are viewing an infringement of the copyright. This is a content summary only. Visit my website http://www.love104.org for full Shayaris n SMS ]]

• tere aane ki jab Khabar mahke

  Heeren Tanna

  19 Nov 2009 | 3:51 am

  tere aane ki jab Khabar mahke teri Khushboo se saara ghar mahke shaam mahke tere tasavvur se shaam ke baad phir sahar mahke raat bhar sochtaa rahaa tujh ko zahan-o-dil mere raat bhar mahke yaad... [[ This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only. The use of this feed on other websites breaches copyright. If this content is not in your news reader, it makes the page you are viewing an infringement of the copyright. This is a content summary only. Visit my website http://www.love104.org for full Shayaris n SMS ]]

• Pyaar se tokhar khayi

  Mehul

  15 Nov 2009 | 2:58 am

  Pyaar se tokhar khayi, Zindagi ne bhi baut sataya, Ankhe bhi rote rote tak gayi, Phir samaj me aya, ki kuch log hameri hota hi nahi, to phir bhi kyoi une hi apnaya…… Javab dudti hu, nahi... [[ This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only. The use of this feed on other websites breaches copyright. If this content is not in your news reader, it makes the page you are viewing an infringement of the copyright. This is a content summary only. Visit my website http://www.love104.org for full Shayaris n SMS ]]

• Hindi Love Shayari

  Heeren Tanna

  13 Nov 2009 | 11:52 pm

  Tumhe dil main basaye rakhta hoon Aur duniya ko bhoolaye rakhta hoon Tumhe meri nazar na lag jaye Iss liye nazarein jukaye rakhta hoon *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~Hindi Love Shayari – Hindi Love... [[ This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only. The use of this feed on other websites breaches copyright. If this content is not in your news reader, it makes the page you are viewing an infringement of the copyright. This is a content summary only. Visit my website http://www.love104.org for full Shayaris n SMS ]]

• Love Hindi SMS

  Heeren Tanna

  13 Nov 2009 | 5:51 am

  Pucho na us kagaz se,jis pe hum dil ke bayan likhte hain. Tanhayino me beeti baate tamam likhte hain, Wo Kalam bhi dewani ho gayi, jis se hum AAP ka Naam likhte hain. *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Love Hindi... [[ This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only. The use of this feed on other websites breaches copyright. If this content is not in your news reader, it makes the page you are viewing an infringement of the copyright. This is a content summary only. Visit my website http://www.love104.org for full Shayaris n SMS ]]

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  Dating Beautiful Women

• The 5:00 am Date

  Mario

  19 Nov 2009 | 6:32 am

  Most of the articles on this site are step-by-step guides, but once a while I like to write about some personal experiences. This time I’ll tell you about something that happened only a few days ago. I had met this superb girl at a museum only about a week ago. The kind of girl I like the most: beautiful, very smart, high cultured and quite sophisticated. If I had to choose a kind of girl, it would be one like that. We didn’t speak much, to be honest. Maybe just twenty minutes, no more, while she was also with a few friends. Not the ideal situation to flirt; it was just more like an…

• Preparing The First Date

  Mario

  16 Nov 2009 | 11:38 am

  There is a lot to prepare when heading for a first date. The place to go, what to wear… All these flow the minds of men prior to the big moment. But there is one aspect that is often overlooked: what are you going to speak about. There is no rule about that. Each girl is different and you have to adapt your speech to your particular date. Prepare the talking to go around what that girl will be interested and thrilled about and you are highly likely to succeed. How To Prepare Think about this as homework. Just as you have to study for an exam or research for an interview or meeting, you also…

• Age Difference in Couples

  Mario

  12 Nov 2009 | 7:10 am

  One of the most common dilemmas in relationship is age. Does it matter? It is possible to build a healthy relationship if the age difference between partners is too big? There is no concrete answer: it depends on the couple. It depends because age is subjective. Quoting Indiana Jones, it’s not age what matters: it’s the mileage. It makes sense from any side you look at it, with mileage meaning experiences, successes and failures and maturity in general. With that said, one twenty-something year old man can be more mature and a better partner to a thirty-year old woman than one her age. It…

• Surviving a Long Distance Relationship

  Mario

  9 Nov 2009 | 6:11 am

  I already made clear what I think about long distance relationships: they should be avoided. Still, there are many of you who might be willing, despite all these hardships, to try out a bit of long distance love. It’s not that it is impossible, it’s just much more tricky and prone to conflict than you might think. The Holy Grail of Long Distance Relationships If there are chances of surviving long distance, relationships of love are the ones which have the highest odds. Relationships of insecurity will, in an overwhelming majority, fail. It makes sense: if your couple was built out of the…

• Love vs. Insecurity

  Mario

  6 Nov 2009 | 6:11 am

  I was, as scheduled, writing the follow-up to the long distance relationships article. I got a bit carried away and ended up writing a bunch about love vs. insecurity relationships. This is worth of having a stand-alone post, so here it is! The Truth About Relationships There are two types of relationships: those built out of love and those built out of insecurity. Relationships built out of love are most of the ones which will end up living happily ever after, while the ones built out of insecurity are deemed, in most cases, to end up in horrible break-ups, divorce, etc. Here I’ll help you…

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  How To Pick Up Girls | Mack Tactics

• How To Meet Girls On Facebook

  admin

  19 Nov 2009 | 3:38 am

  Hey, it’s your wingman Dean Cortez here with some powerful tips on ONLINE GAME. Let me tell you about a line my buddy used a few nights ago to pick up this hot, 21 year old blonde off Facebook… Or if you want to skip ahead and learn the complete arsenal of “internet tactics” — which include EVERYTHING you need to know about how to meet girls on Facebook — you need to give this a quick read: “The Online Game: Internet Attraction System – Click  Here” Anyway, my buddy contacted this hottie on Facebook by writing to her, “Hey! I think…

• How To Approach Women In A Group

  admin

  16 Nov 2009 | 7:52 pm

  My name is Dean Cortez, and I have a confession to make: I’m a hardcore pickup artist. I make it my mission to approach beautiful women EVERY DAY and constantly expand my network — more hot girls to date, more honeys to sleep with, and new sexy friends to simply go out with to bars and nightclubs. Because when you go out to meet NEW girls, the best “wingman” of all isn’t a guy — it’s a hot CHICK who makes the other girls jealous ;) I’ve taught thousands of guys around the world how to use “bulletproof” tactics to approach girls in…

• How To Approach Women In Bars And Clubs

  admin

  13 Nov 2009 | 12:38 am

  Approach Women – Tips And Tactics Every weekend, millions of men around the world, from Cleveland to Tokyo, dress their best and head to the bars in the hopes of finding a girl. Of course, they might pretend like they’re  just “going out for a beer with the boys,” but a lot of them are in fact looking to get lucky that evening with a chick. And that’s where they make their first error: viewing their mission tonight in terms of “getting lucky.” A lot of men really think that hooking up with a babe at a bar is about luck, fate, or being in the right…

• How To Aproach A Woman You Work With

  admin

  11 Nov 2009 | 5:27 am

  How To Approach Women At Work Just about every man I’ve ever known (including myself) has been in this scenario before: there’s a woman you work with, or who works in the same building, and you’d like to be MORE than her “colleague.” You would like to ask this girl out and take it to a romantic level! But you DON’T take action, because you can only conceive of the possible NEGATIVE results. As expected, the #1 negative outcome that men are afraid of is, “if I try to ask her out and she says no, it will be utterly AWKWARD having to see her at work from…

• How To Approach Women At The Gym

  admin

  8 Nov 2009 | 8:53 pm

  Approach Women At The Gym – Flirting Tips The guys at my gym still look at me with awe, and ask how I managed to nail “Anna Kournikova.” No, I didn’t actually sleep with that unbelievably hot Russian tennis player who is also a worldwide sex symbol. But there WAS a girl at my gym who looked JUST like her — so much so that we all referred to her (behind her back) by that nickname. And we ALL would have crawled a mile over broken glass to bang her! This girl was BEYOND hot, and she was Russian, too (with a super-sexy accent). She would show up at the gym wearing…